Dating my wifes best friend
There is nothing exceptional about him: He is overweight, basically lives on Social Security with enough left in retirement savings for some luxury in life, has no special talents that would make a much younger woman attracted to him (i.e., he is no Jack Nicholson).
I encouraged him to think about more age-appropriate partners and did some Internet searches for him on legit dating websites, but he’s not interested in anyone close to his age: Those women are “old,” he says.
I have a new girlfriend now and I hope Tony, Cathy and Lhoste can all be happy.”Tony Hawk, 42, super-wealthy from all of his years on top of the pro skateboarding world, dumped Lhoste Merriam — his third wife who was his former publicist –when they divorced in February.
So, I got a text message today from my best friends telling me that he is in love with my ex wife. I was not abusive, didn't drink, do drugs, hit her, etc.
She moved back to our home town about an hour away and has moved in with and is apparently "in love" with my best friend.
He told me in his text that this didn't cause my divorce .
There was no way I could keep that dating fire burning as practicality invaded our lives. Something I haven’t wanted to admit for a long time, but is undeniable.
And even worse, it seemed that the harder I tried to be sentimental and lovey-dovey, the less it was reciprocated. Or, once we had a daughter, when I shared the responsibility of watching over her. Because as our marriage progressed, I found myself offering to help out around the house more and more. It took me longer than I care to admit to understand what was happening. Through giving, through doing things for my wife, the emotion that I had been so desperately seeking naturally came about. An emotion that, once had, somehow magically stays within a marriage forever. And I’m saddened to think about how much those messages bounced around in my head for so long.
and i have shat on people i didn't care about primarily cos it didn't matter if the "friendship" died off Hmm. They were on and off from middle school into college. If he was a good friend then obviously you consider him to be a solid human, why shouldn't she be happy with a nice guy?
I wanted to tell her on the first date, but I knew that would probably be weird. She kind of gave me this half-shy, half-amused smile. But as time has gone on, I also realized that she knew something that I didn’t. I tried so hard to keep that fire going, to keep that emotion alight, but it got harder and harder. And what was even more interesting was that once I realized this on a conscious level, and started trying to find more opportunities to give, the more we both, almost intuitively, became lovey-dovey. From the excitement of dating a woman I felt like I could marry. Imagine a whole nation of people constantly chasing the emotions they had when they were dating. That’s a recipe for disastrous marriages; for a country with a 50% divorce rate; for adultery (the classic attempt to turn the fire back on); for people who do stay together to simply live functional, loveless marriages. How many people are in pain simply because they’ve been lied to.